What’s the difference between ‘love’ and ‘like’? You’ve come to the right place. Not only do I fix people, I’m a butterfly, and I’m also a love expert. And by love expert, I mean I am in no way qualified to give you advice in this topic. However, I do love the discussion about love. So here are my opinions. Opinions only.
‘Love’ is not a higher degree of ‘like’. I don’t believe that the more I like, the more it is called love. Nope. I believe that ‘love’ and ‘like’ are two totally different scales altogether. Example: monkeys and coffee.
‘Like’ is a natural tendency towards. For example, after trails and tests, I have found that I tend towards burgers more than vegetables. Therefore, I can say that I like burgers more than vegetables. Same with people. We can like some more than others. Some of us even have a ranking list or a scale of how much we like people. ‘Like’ is very much a feeling.
‘Love’ is action. ‘Love’ is also a reaction towards. This means that love is more of a choice that leads to action. What we do can determine whether we love something or someone. What we do can also determine whether we don’t love something or someone. Of course, some of us may be saying, we could just do things but not out of love. In fact, a lot of things we do, we just do cuz we need to, not out of love. But let me turn things around for you. The only way that love can be proven, is through actions. Commitment, patience, sacrifice, defending, determination, faith towards, care, understanding, respect, kindness, excitement, these are actions that can prove love. Love is not a feeling. It is a choice. If I say that I ‘love’ a girl, but all my actions show that she’s no different from stranger, no one will agree with me when I say I ‘love’ her. If I did love her, I’d take every opportunity I’m given to care for her.
‘Like’ is not needed to love. Because love is a choice, we also can choose to love ‘for better or for worse’. Which means, for example, I will still love you even if you did something I disliked. It’s not easy to do, of course. I’m just telling you it’s possible. There will always always be times in our life that we will really really dislike our loved ones, or best friends, or family members. In fact, the closer they are to our hearts, the more hurtful things can get. But we can choose to love them still. Love is a choice, which leads to action. If love is a feeling a few degrees above like, then weddings vows will have no meaning, children will not feel safe, best friends are not best friends. If love is a feeling, there would be a 100% divorce rate in the world, and 90% of it will happen within the first year of marriage.
Can I love you and like you? Yes.
Can I love you but dislike you? Yes.
Can I not love you but like you? Yes.
Can I not love you and not like you? Yes.
Another reminder to you that this is heavily opinionated on my beliefs and my experiences and from what I learned from other people. So don’t quote me as canon. But, I do hope I’ve opened your eyes to how I see the terms ‘love’ and ‘like’.
If you have any questions or doubts, please do comment. Ktnxbai!