In Regards To The Anniversary Of Ivan’s Birth

Ivan. I’ve known this dude since the beginning of 1998 (I think). So it’s been 18 years.

I’m glad to have kept in contact with him. I’ve seen him grow a lot. He’s quite different from 18 years ago. Taller.

So to write this post, I’m gonna ask myself: what are some things that I remember most about Ivan?

Hmmmmm. One thing is that there was this once when we were at his house, we were playing with the skateboard, and I wanted to skate down a downslope. The skateboard went forward, but I didn’t. I fell on my butt bone. And that was one of my most painful experiences of my life. I think I couldn’t sit properly for at least two weeks.

Also, we once made short comics with his toys and a camera.

Thirdly, I remember he would lose the game very frequently when he was around Jeremy and I.

Not only that, we could really chat for a long time. I think it’s cuz we see life quite similarly. And have kind of a similar set of beliefs and principles.

What else can I remember? I’ve had lots of adventures with Ivan. Especially when Jeremy’s around haha.

To Ivan, thanks for being one of my closest buddies! Here’s to more adventures and fun together. Always grow and be as Christ-like as possible!

Happy birthday!

Romans 12:1-2

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.  And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

Sin, When It Is Full-Grown, Brings Forth Death.

 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.  Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

Imagine a baby. Not a cute one. A bright red one. With hungry eyes. And sharp teeth. Three horns on it’s head. It’s not crying, or screaming, or flailing it’s arms. Just waiting. Staring. Waiting for food. Waiting to grow. Waiting to devour you when you make yourself vulnerable.

That’s what I imagine when I read James 1:14-15. My sins will be the death of me.

When I entertain my desire with my mind, I conceive a life, or death in this case. When I choose to act, it becomes a sin; the baby has come into existence. And the more I feed this baby, the more it grows and drains me. One day, this baby will be strong enough to overpower me and kill me.

I have sinned a lot. Today, yesterday, and everyday before that. I need to stop. God help me. Cleanse me with your holy Fire. Purify. Teach me to be strict with myself. Teach me obedience. Grant me the power and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to overcome temptation. Teach me to stop sin even at it’s conception. Fill me God. Fill me.

Concerning Rock Bands

I remember the first rock bands I listened to were Relient K and Underoath. I didn’t like Underoath cuz I couldn’t understand what was going on. It sounded too noisy and loud and mean.

Relient K is not metal or heavy at all. And even for Relient K, it took me one year to get used to just rock rock (I grew up in the 90’s with mostly pop ok? Remember when Westlife was ‘da-bomb’?). Of course, it took me a lot longer than a year to get used to metal, which is right now my all-time favourite genre.

And now, listening to Underoath, I know why they were world-class. It’s cuz they kick-ass. (You know a music is kick-ass if you’re rocking to it in the car and trying to scream along even if you can’t hear the words.)

Go listen. Change your perception of music.

Love Vs Like

What’s the difference between ‘love’ and ‘like’? You’ve come to the right place. Not only do I fix people, I’m a butterfly, and  I’m also a love expert. And by love expert, I mean I am in no way qualified to give you advice in this topic. However, I do love the discussion about love. So here are my opinions. Opinions only.

 

#1

‘Love’ is not a higher degree of ‘like’. I don’t believe that the more I like, the more it is called love. Nope. I believe that ‘love’ and ‘like’ are two totally different scales altogether. Example: monkeys and coffee.

#2

‘Like’ is a natural tendency towards. For example, after trails and tests, I have found that I tend towards burgers more than vegetables. Therefore, I can say that I like burgers more than vegetables. Same with people. We can like some more than others. Some of us even have a ranking list or a scale of how much we like people. ‘Like’ is very much a feeling.

#3

‘Love’ is action. ‘Love’ is also a reaction towards. This means that love is more of a choice that leads to action. What we do can determine whether we love something or someone. What we do can also determine whether we don’t love something or someone. Of course, some of us may be saying, we could just do things but not out of love. In fact, a lot of things we do, we just do cuz we need to, not out of love. But let me turn things around for you. The only way that love can be proven, is through actions. Commitment, patience, sacrifice, defending, determination, faith towards, care, understanding, respect, kindness, excitement, these are actions that can prove love. Love is not a feeling. It is a choice. If I say that I ‘love’ a girl, but all my actions show that she’s no different from stranger, no one will agree with me when I say I ‘love’ her. If I did love her, I’d take every opportunity I’m given to care for her.

#4

‘Like’ is not needed to love. Because love is a choice, we also can choose to love ‘for better or for worse’. Which means, for example, I will still love you even if you did something I disliked. It’s not easy to do, of course. I’m just telling you it’s possible. There will always always be times in our life that we will really really dislike our loved ones, or best friends, or family members. In fact, the closer they are to our hearts, the more hurtful things can get. But we can choose to love them still. Love is a choice, which leads to action. If love is a feeling a few degrees above like, then weddings vows will have no meaning, children will not feel safe, best friends are not best friends. If love is a feeling, there would be a 100% divorce rate in the world, and 90% of it will happen within the first year of marriage.

#5

Conclusion.

Can I love you and like you? Yes.

Can I love you but dislike you? Yes.

Can I not love you but like you? Yes.

Can I not love you and not like you? Yes.

 

 

Another reminder to you that this is heavily opinionated on my beliefs and my experiences and from what I learned from other people. So don’t quote me as canon. But, I do hope I’ve opened your eyes to how I see the terms ‘love’ and ‘like’.

If you have any questions or doubts, please do comment. Ktnxbai!