LOVE & RELATIONSHIP & LOVE & RELATIONSHIP & LOVE & RELATIONSHIP & LOVE & RELATIONSHIP

30/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ 2 Comments

i hope you like my title for today.

as you can tell.

i think we as human beings tend to focus alot on love and relationship.

is that a good thing or bad thing?

answer.

it is in fact a super good thing.

but wait, you think i was going to talk about how focusing on love and relationship so much can make u an emo person and ruin your life?

that is also true.

but we have to.

we’ve been built this way.

Fact #1

God built us for 1 purpose:

LOVE & RELATIONSHIP.

if you ask someone what life is about

or what defines their life

it prolly goes back to what they love doing, who they love, and who & what they associate with.

love and relationship.

family, job, friends, and beliefs.

of course, they dont CALL it a love & a relationship.

its just life.

basic.

most people equate love and relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend-spouse-husband-wife relationship.

it DOES make sense for us to love this topic and this train of thought so much,

because it touches us deep inside.

we all want it.

we all crave for it.

we just love being loved.

because we were made this way.

Problem #1

The Devil wants us to think that LOVE means “relationship with that special ONE man or woman.”

what happened to love being how we put up with our family?

what happened to love being the reason why we help our neighbors?

what happened to love being the reason we just feel compassionate for the needy?

what happened to love being the reason why we took that job?

what happened to love being sharing even when we are in need?

what happened to love being forgiveness and acceptance?

what happened to love being about pride in our family even when there are disagreements?

what happened to love being the bond between best friends?

what happened to love being the reason we are alive?

what happened to GOD’s Definition of love?

HE IS LOVE.

He created us to love Him and love those around us.

not just give focus on that one person.

no.

that is immature.

thats not what life is about.

one man or woman you decide to marry.

oh all my focus and life will be dedicated to you.

that sounds nice bro.

but God created us to have a greater life purpose than just that.

we seriously put so much passion and time and devotion and thought and energy into this love stuff.

wanna know why?

Fact #2 (that is basically a repeat of Fact #1)

We were BORN to put so much passion and time and devotion and thought and energy into this love stuff.

we love thinking about these things. and we should.

God created us this way.

all the devil needs to do is divert our attention on what we love.

(When we focus on that over God, it becomes idolatry: Mr devils #1 weapon of mass destruction)

its so easy.

what do we love?

its so easy for us to focus on loving our spouse or potential spouse

(because thats what the devil is telling us to focus on)

so easy to give it so much attention.

the devil is saying:

you prolly dont get enough love and attention that you should at home,

look at what drama and books are saying.

they all say the same thing. and if they say the same thing, its prolly true eh?

so where do the books and movies and drama tell us love is?

love is in that cute guy over there.

he’ll treat me right.

acceptance is in that cute girl over there.

she gives me happy tinglings when i talk to her.

feeling loved just like in the movies makes me excited!

The devil tells us that’s what love is.

AUTOMATICALLY, we will pursue love (we were born that way remember?).

we just need a gentle nudging.

the devil knows that.

he knows all the right buttons.

Problem #2

By that time we have given it too much Unnecessary attention and passion,

we’d be too worn out to care and love other things.

tell me if you did this today:

did you think about the lost?

did you think about the people who had no opportunity for studies?

did you think about how you can be a better son or daughter?

did you think about just being a better person for people around you?

did you think about being a good christian?

did you think about having a holy life to make God happy?

did you think about that girl that is soooo interestingly beautiful and you just cant put your finger on why she attracts you so much even though you’ve been telling people that that sort of girl is not your type?

i tell you the truth.

i’m guilty of spending too much time and energy thinking about girls that could potentially be my spouse.

Exercise #1

Find out what you’ve been thinking about, planning, and getting all excited over all day today, yesterday, the day before that, and most of the time for as long as you remember.

That may very well have become your idol.

As A Conclusion:

i call this topic of “love with a man or woman for marriage”, BGR.

Boy/Girl Relationship.

i dont call it LOVE or RELATIONSHIP.

sure BGR is a category under LOVE & RELATIONSHIP.

but love and relationship is so so much more than just that.

its a great conversational topic.

i love it in fact!

i really do.

but i think its really unhealthy to be dwelling on it too much.

we love this topic because it is our passion.

sure.

but we have to develop our other passions as well.

like a love and relationship with our parents, siblings, children, cousins, friends, best friends, acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors, classmates, the poor, the sick, our government, its ministers, the foreigners, the illegal immigrants, and most importantly, JESUS.

my hope for you from today onwards is that you be on the watch.

be watchful for the subtle lies of the enemy.

the gentle nudges that make us feel good and feel right and feel loved.

check it against the word of God.

LOVE is a big word.

Relationship is a big word.

we were created for a relationship with God and with people around us.

not JUST that one person.

also one last note.

is what your boyfriend doing to you called love?

is being accepted by your friends even if they ask you to do stupid things called love?

is the way your parents treat you called love?

want to find out what love REALLY is?

Movies, drama, books have it all wrong bro.

find out in the bible.

all the answers are there.

Preach It Bruh

28/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ 1 Comment

interesting game we played today.

randomly flip to a passage in the bible.

take 30secs to think about what it means.

do a 3 minute preaching.

very stressful.

very mindboggling.

testing.

but can be very hilarious as well.

but only if you’re playing with friends.

can lead to some interesting discussion.

Marketing

25/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ Leave a comment

“Advertising has always sold anxiety, and it certainly sells anxiety to the young. It’s always telling them they’re losers unless they’re cool.”
(Mark Crispin Miller, The Merchants of Cool, 2000)

Hi All

25/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ Leave a comment

God bless you.

i miss you all.

have a great day.

bye.

i love you guys

Update! Because!

22/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ Leave a comment

Hey, I Just Never Met You

Day 21 – Do you want children? Why or why not?

yes!!!

because kids are awesome!

i’ve always wanted kids.

its one of my SUREST desires of my life.

i only have a few ‘SUREST desires’ btw.

no seriously.

pls dont be tricked by the pic above.

gosh, i knew inserting that pic would have a horrible effect on my answer for this.

Day 22 – What subject did/do you exceed in/at school?

maths.

I kinda like to tell people i exceeded over those who exceeded.

but thats like bragging.

Day 23 – Are you a fan of art? If so, who is your favorite artist? What artistic movement do you prefer?

my fav artist is sort of an over-achiever.

he likes to over-do the awesome.

he’s still creating art as we speak.

everyday its different.

like where does he get the time?

omg i need to learn his persistence and patience.

and he takes all his work very seriously.

everyday the clouds look different at every time of the day.

everyday the breeze will blow differently to make the trees move to a different dance style.

everyday the living beings grow in ways we shall never understand.

i can never understand God and His work.

but i can be amazed.

Day 24 – How attractive do you consider yourself?

depends on how i smell that day.

if i smell good. im agonizingly attractive.

thats like 43 out of 10 on the attractiveness scale.

other than that, i’d be 10 out of 10.

*shrugs*

you know.

im not trying to be modest or anything.

Day 25 – Would you rather date someone plain with an amazing personality or someone beautiful with a plain personality?

plain as in looks?

or plain as in personality?

i’ve dated lots of people in my life.

most of them look very much like males.

does that mean i like dating people with amazing looks?

or does that mean i like dating people with amazing personality?

Day 26 – Choose two: mentally stable, intelligent, attractive. Explain why you chose those two.

i’d say mentally stable and mentally intelligent is the same thing.

mentally attractive is another.

yet.

being mentally stable and intelligent makes that person mentally attractive.

no wait.

i take that back.

i think EVERYONE who does not have bad intention or lousy character is mentally attractive.

if you are evil, you are unattractive.

in a sense.

no wait.

i take that back.

we are all evil. not even the most holy person i know dares say he’s not evil.

so is EVERYONE mentally unattractive?

i’ve found people who are definitely mentally attractive.

even those who are down-syndromed or autistic.

so there ARE people out there who are mentally attractive to me.

not necessarily mentally stable or mentally intelligent ones tho (see how dumb that sounds?).

is this some sort of trick question?

Day 27 – Which do you prefer: films or television? Why?

waiiiiiiiit a minute.

dont tell me this is ANOTHER trick question.

RIGHT after a trick question.

very sneaky.

Day 28 – If you could choose to live forever, would you? Why or why not?

i would like to live a long long time.

but not forever.

because i want to get to heaven.

i bet its more exciting.

what do you think heaven is like?

do you think it has enough coffee shops?

Day 29 – Do you wish for anything at 11:11? If so, what do you wish for? Has anything ever come true?

i googled what wishing on 11:11 meant.

and i still dont get it.

i HAVE wished for things before.

and i have PRAYED for things before too.

weird thing is, God knows the words of our mouths even before we speak it.

He also knows the desires of our hearts before we pray for it.

so many times i receive things i havent prayed for but hoped for too.

He’s just awesome that way.

Day 30 – What do you imagine your life like at age fifty?

MORE exciting than now.

I’m Not Crying – Flight Of The Conchords

19/09/201222/07/2013 ~ doctorbutterfly ~ 1 Comment

So, you’re leaving, aren’t you’
I knew it when you said just then when you told me you were leaving
That’s when I definitely knew
But if you’re trying to break my heart
Your plan is flawed from the start
You can’t break my heart, it’s liquid
It melted when I met you
And as you turn around to leave
Don’t’ turn back to me
Don’t turn around and see if I’m crying
I’m not crying

I’m not crying
It’s just been raining
on my face
And if you think you see some tear tracks down my cheeks
Please. Pleasee, don’t tell my mates
I’m not crying
No, I’m not crying
And if I am crying
It’s not because of you
It’s because I’m thinking about a friend of mine who you don’t know who is dying
That’s right, dying
These aren’t tears of sadness because you’re leaving me
I’ve just been cutting onions
I’m making a lasagna
For one
Oh, I’m not crying
No
There’s just a little bit of dust in my eye
That’s from the path that you made when you said your goodbye
I’m not weeping because you won’t be here to hold my hand
For your information there’s an inflammation in my tear gland
I’m not upset because you left me this way
My eyes are just a little sweaty today
They’ve been looking around
They’re like searching for you
They’ve been looking for you
Even though I told them not to
These aren’t tears of sadness
They’re tears of joy
I’m just laughing
Ha ha ha-ha ha
I’m sitting at this table called love
Staring down at the irony of life
How come we’ve reached this fork in the road
And yet it cuts like a knife’
I’m not crying
I’m not crying
I’m not cry-y-y-y-
-y-y-y-y-ing