Concerning Rock Bands

I remember the first rock bands I listened to were Relient K and Underoath. I didn’t like Underoath cuz I couldn’t understand what was going on. It sounded too noisy and loud and mean.

Relient K is not metal or heavy at all. And even for Relient K, it took me one year to get used to just rock rock (I grew up in the 90’s with mostly pop ok? Remember when Westlife was ‘da-bomb’?). Of course, it took me a lot longer than a year to get used to metal, which is right now my all-time favourite genre.

And now, listening to Underoath, I know why they were world-class. It’s cuz they kick-ass. (You know a music is kick-ass if you’re rocking to it in the car and trying to scream along even if you can’t hear the words.)

Go listen. Change your perception of music.

Love Vs Like

What’s the difference between ‘love’ and ‘like’? You’ve come to the right place. Not only do I fix people, I’m a butterfly, and  I’m also a love expert. And by love expert, I mean I am in no way qualified to give you advice in this topic. However, I do love the discussion about love. So here are my opinions. Opinions only.



‘Love’ is not a higher degree of ‘like’. I don’t believe that the more I like, the more it is called love. Nope. I believe that ‘love’ and ‘like’ are two totally different scales altogether. Example: monkeys and coffee.


‘Like’ is a natural tendency towards. For example, after trails and tests, I have found that I tend towards burgers more than vegetables. Therefore, I can say that I like burgers more than vegetables. Same with people. We can like some more than others. Some of us even have a ranking list or a scale of how much we like people. ‘Like’ is very much a feeling.


‘Love’ is action. ‘Love’ is also a reaction towards. This means that love is more of a choice that leads to action. What we do can determine whether we love something or someone. What we do can also determine whether we don’t love something or someone. Of course, some of us may be saying, we could just do things but not out of love. In fact, a lot of things we do, we just do cuz we need to, not out of love. But let me turn things around for you. The only way that love can be proven, is through actions. Commitment, patience, sacrifice, defending, determination, faith towards, care, understanding, respect, kindness, excitement, these are actions that can prove love. Love is not a feeling. It is a choice. If I say that I ‘love’ a girl, but all my actions show that she’s no different from stranger, no one will agree with me when I say I ‘love’ her. If I did love her, I’d take every opportunity I’m given to care for her.


‘Like’ is not needed to love. Because love is a choice, we also can choose to love ‘for better or for worse’. Which means, for example, I will still love you even if you did something I disliked. It’s not easy to do, of course. I’m just telling you it’s possible. There will always always be times in our life that we will really really dislike our loved ones, or best friends, or family members. In fact, the closer they are to our hearts, the more hurtful things can get. But we can choose to love them still. Love is a choice, which leads to action. If love is a feeling a few degrees above like, then weddings vows will have no meaning, children will not feel safe, best friends are not best friends. If love is a feeling, there would be a 100% divorce rate in the world, and 90% of it will happen within the first year of marriage.



Can I love you and like you? Yes.

Can I love you but dislike you? Yes.

Can I not love you but like you? Yes.

Can I not love you and not like you? Yes.



Another reminder to you that this is heavily opinionated on my beliefs and my experiences and from what I learned from other people. So don’t quote me as canon. But, I do hope I’ve opened your eyes to how I see the terms ‘love’ and ‘like’.

If you have any questions or doubts, please do comment. Ktnxbai!

Happy Birthday!


If it’s your birthday, do two things for me.

One. Thank God for giving you an extra year from last year. Thank God for allowing you another year.

Two. Claim God’s blessings & God’s promises. Whatever He’d said He’d give, He’ll give. Tell Him that you WANT it.


Okay. That’s all. Bye


Hey friends, that’s you. Things may get a bit more hectic this year. I’m gonna be changing my job starting Feb. Interesting transition. I’ve only been offered about two and a half weeks ago. And I decided last week. Sent my resignation letter to my current boss the moment I decided. Of course, as with any kind of change I’m faced with, I have this deep inner fear from my stomach that comes up and crawls under my skin. I’m not kidding. It feels like that. Always. Especially when I have to do something important. Changing a job is an important event. Anyway, I hope I do well there. It’s one step up my ‘corporate life ladder’. Which always means more responsibility and more stress and more focus needed. Focus? GAH. I’m gonna try my best anyway. I will make mistakes and forget stuff and make a fool of myself. But I have to remind myself what I’ve recently reminded a dear friend of mine, to be successful is to fail and to try and try again.

I hope you’re rocking your life.

If not, take courage and make the best out of what you have! Bring God with you.


Whiners Gotta Whine

Ever hear a kid whine? I hear it a lot. Funny thing is, people whine. Lot’s of people do it. We do it cuz we want something (usually attention), and also just to complain (it also means we want attention duh).

Kids do it. Teenagers do it. Adults do it. Even really old people do it.

It’s freaking annoying. STOP IT please. Nobody WANTS to help you after you’ve whined. Do your friends want to help you more when you whine? Are you more popular or do people like to have you around when you whine? Does your boyfriend prefer you whining when you ask for something rather than ask nicely? Do your parents see you more as an adorable precious princess when you whine? Are your team members more motivated when they see their leader whine?


Please reevaluate your character and your attitude towards… everything… in life.