The Key of Forgiveness

Have you ever wondered why forgiveness is hard?

Some people claim they can forgive easily. But will still be willing to remind everyone what a person did wrong in the past. I don’t think that’s forgiveness.

Before I tell you what I think real forgiveness means, allow me to explain how I got this topic into the thought-train of my mind.

My church did a Passover Feast meeting yesterday. We’re not Jewish, but we were remembering and experiencing how Jesus did it and learning the significance of what they did in their culture. And as we were taking communion, I was being thankful of how Jesus suffered and bore my sins, when I thought, ‘Hey, it wasn’t fair for Jesus at all.’ I knew things weren’t fair in life, but Jesus had to suffer most unfairly. If we died, even if we were seen as a ‘holy’ man, we’d still have come from a sinful background, and dying earlier than expected just means we died earlier than expected. We’ve all sinned. We would all have to suffer death anyway. We deserved it, maybe not tragic horrible sudden death, but we deserve death at the end. But Jesus, no. He’s perfect, He has overcame sin, and did outstanding work for the Father on His short time on earth. So it was the MOST unfair for Him to die in MY place. To suffer tragically for my sins, my wrongs, my mistakes.

But God sent Jesus as an action of His forgiveness to us. He GAVE us Jesus. It is unfair because He gave without needing or forcing us to give back. There was no exchange. Our Father HOPES that we give our lives back to Him, but He doesn’t FORCE us. He loves us that much.

So what is the key word in forgiveness? GIVE. For He GAVE. God FORGAVE. When we ask anyone for forgiveness, we are asking them to Give off themselves for us. There are a lot of things we may be giving of ourselves when we forgive. Think about it. We could be writing off a debt: We’re basically giving our money away. We could be forgiving a mean word: We’re basically giving him good report for the bad report he deserves. It could be a sacrifice of our pride, position, time, thoughts, joy, sometimes even what we believe in, and you may even hate someone but choose to change your mindset and decide to love him instead. That sounds quite preposterous. But IT IS. Sacrificing for an undeserved. That’s why forgiving is hard. In this world where fairness is fought for, we forgiveness can be quite hard to understand or accept. Giving without receiving. Forgiveness has to be FREELY Given to count.

He gave us life, breath, abilities, people, safety, took care of the details of our life. WE owe God. But we offended Him. We foolishly, knowingly, willingly, continuously sin against Him. YET God Forgave us. A clean slate. A passage to heaven. A direct audience with the Holy King at any time. These are all ours without demanding anything in return. These are all ours IF we choose to accept it. He GAVE us these when we deserved nothing.

Ephesians 4:32

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.


Can we find it in our being to forgive people around us?

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Philippians 4:4-9

Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.


First of all, verse 6 and 7 was in my mind this morning. I’m not really doing well emotionally these days. I’m upset. I don’t have faith in myself. I’m failing in certain (big important) areas in life. But here I’m reminded that I’ve got to pray and put my trust and faith in a God that is in control and who wants ONLY the BEST for His children. I’m really really looking forward for this peace of God, not just any peace, that is more than all that we can imagine. These few things I’ve got to face right now, sigh… is not too easy. Career, other humans to deal with, responsibilities. I want to be in control. But I’m more glad that God is in control. That’s the simple faith I have now. And it’s all I have.

Secondly, verses 4 and 5 “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.”

That’s a great reminder for me to be joyful and hopeful in God no matter what I’m facing. To refocus not on the tiny details that seem scare me, but on the weight of Glory of Jesus who has overcame, and will come back again soon. Changing my selfish, human, carnal mindset, to a kingdom-expectant mindset. And to remember that we are on God’s winning side! He picked us and allowed us to share in this glory. That’s reason enough to rejoice.

Thirdly, after being reminded to put my faith and trust in God and to pray, and after being reminded to change our mindset and rejoice! Then there is verse 8 “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. ”

It’s like Paul is telling me “No matter what you’re going through, whatever you’re thinking, whatever you’re worrying about or wondering, STOP THINKING IT.”

I need to spend my time looking to God’s face and glory. And seek His presence. And look for evidence that He is real, because He is always showing His glory and truth and miracles but I’m not always looking out for it. Just like a man who just needs to spend every last second he can with his lover. Just like a son who wants to enjoy the presence of his father on the dinner table. I want to enjoy the presence of my wonderful and beautiful God again.

It’s like God is saying, “Think about Me! Think about things that matter! Know that I love you. Be sure that Jesus has saved you for a greater purpose. Be sure that I will send my angels to protect you. Be sure that you have the Holy Spirit to guide to give you life and power. Be pure and compassionate in your thoughts towards others. Take my wisdom and instructions seriously. I have revealed to you and your brethren what I have not revealed to others, meditate on it.”

Aaron, be at peace, because God is your focus.




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