i hope you like my title for today.
as you can tell.
i think we as human beings tend to focus alot on love and relationship.
is that a good thing or bad thing?
it is in fact a super good thing.
but wait, you think i was going to talk about how focusing on love and relationship so much can make u an emo person and ruin your life?
that is also true.
but we have to.
we’ve been built this way.
God built us for 1 purpose:
LOVE & RELATIONSHIP.
if you ask someone what life is about
or what defines their life
it prolly goes back to what they love doing, who they love, and who & what they associate with.
love and relationship.
family, job, friends, and beliefs.
of course, they dont CALL it a love & a relationship.
its just life.
most people equate love and relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend-spouse-husband-wife relationship.
it DOES make sense for us to love this topic and this train of thought so much,
because it touches us deep inside.
we all want it.
we all crave for it.
we just love being loved.
because we were made this way.
The Devil wants us to think that LOVE means “relationship with that special ONE man or woman.”
what happened to love being how we put up with our family?
what happened to love being the reason why we help our neighbors?
what happened to love being the reason we just feel compassionate for the needy?
what happened to love being the reason why we took that job?
what happened to love being sharing even when we are in need?
what happened to love being forgiveness and acceptance?
what happened to love being about pride in our family even when there are disagreements?
what happened to love being the bond between best friends?
what happened to love being the reason we are alive?
what happened to GOD’s Definition of love?
HE IS LOVE.
He created us to love Him and love those around us.
not just give focus on that one person.
that is immature.
thats not what life is about.
one man or woman you decide to marry.
oh all my focus and life will be dedicated to you.
that sounds nice bro.
but God created us to have a greater life purpose than just that.
we seriously put so much passion and time and devotion and thought and energy into this love stuff.
wanna know why?
Fact #2 (that is basically a repeat of Fact #1)
We were BORN to put so much passion and time and devotion and thought and energy into this love stuff.
we love thinking about these things. and we should.
God created us this way.
all the devil needs to do is divert our attention on what we love.
(When we focus on that over God, it becomes idolatry: Mr devils #1 weapon of mass destruction)
its so easy.
what do we love?
its so easy for us to focus on loving our spouse or potential spouse
(because thats what the devil is telling us to focus on)
so easy to give it so much attention.
the devil is saying:
you prolly dont get enough love and attention that you should at home,
look at what drama and books are saying.
they all say the same thing. and if they say the same thing, its prolly true eh?
so where do the books and movies and drama tell us love is?
love is in that cute guy over there.
he’ll treat me right.
acceptance is in that cute girl over there.
she gives me happy tinglings when i talk to her.
feeling loved just like in the movies makes me excited!
The devil tells us that’s what love is.
AUTOMATICALLY, we will pursue love (we were born that way remember?).
we just need a gentle nudging.
the devil knows that.
he knows all the right buttons.
By that time we have given it too much Unnecessary attention and passion,
we’d be too worn out to care and love other things.
tell me if you did this today:
did you think about the lost?
did you think about the people who had no opportunity for studies?
did you think about how you can be a better son or daughter?
did you think about just being a better person for people around you?
did you think about being a good christian?
did you think about having a holy life to make God happy?
did you think about that girl that is soooo interestingly beautiful and you just cant put your finger on why she attracts you so much even though you’ve been telling people that that sort of girl is not your type?
i tell you the truth.
i’m guilty of spending too much time and energy thinking about girls that could potentially be my spouse.
Find out what you’ve been thinking about, planning, and getting all excited over all day today, yesterday, the day before that, and most of the time for as long as you remember.
That may very well have become your idol.
As A Conclusion:
i call this topic of “love with a man or woman for marriage”, BGR.
i dont call it LOVE or RELATIONSHIP.
sure BGR is a category under LOVE & RELATIONSHIP.
but love and relationship is so so much more than just that.
its a great conversational topic.
i love it in fact!
i really do.
but i think its really unhealthy to be dwelling on it too much.
we love this topic because it is our passion.
but we have to develop our other passions as well.
like a love and relationship with our parents, siblings, children, cousins, friends, best friends, acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors, classmates, the poor, the sick, our government, its ministers, the foreigners, the illegal immigrants, and most importantly, JESUS.
my hope for you from today onwards is that you be on the watch.
be watchful for the subtle lies of the enemy.
the gentle nudges that make us feel good and feel right and feel loved.
check it against the word of God.
LOVE is a big word.
Relationship is a big word.
we were created for a relationship with God and with people around us.
not JUST that one person.
also one last note.
is what your boyfriend doing to you called love?
is being accepted by your friends even if they ask you to do stupid things called love?
is the way your parents treat you called love?
want to find out what love REALLY is?
Movies, drama, books have it all wrong bro.
find out in the bible.
all the answers are there.